Memories
Time moves on, and we have all heard that saying, ‘our children grow up whilst we’re not looking!’
Life has many seasons, some very wonderful, full of laughter and joy, but sadly others difficult and challenging to say the least. It’s all part of our journey, making memories as we move towards our finishing line.
Today I found an old photo of a very special little girl and two delightful small puppies. Such a captivating image, a season in my life with heartfelt memories. I now proudly confess that the small child, my granddaughter – is studying medicine, a surgeon in the making – whilst sadly the second off those sweet little pups has recently died. The other several months ago!
Fourteen years my companions, my beloved Butler and Gracie. In ‘dog’ years I am told that equates to roughly seventy eight human years, based on a general conversion. I quote, ‘a dog’s first two years are equivalent to about 15-24 human years, and then each subsequent year is roughly 4-5 human years.’
So much loved, I believe they had a good, if not fabulous life.
Today as I think of children, and how important it is to bring them up with love, nurturing and wisdom. Equally so to take care of our pets and be grateful for the gift of unconditional love and companionship that they offer us.
One of my most precious quotes is;
‘Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.’ King James Bible Proverbs 22:6. A logo which I use for my Nursery School
Thinking of our pets – particularly dogs – I hear the expression, a dog is for life, not just Christmas. As our children, our lives also revolve around our pets. Undoubtedly they are a huge part of the family life, and when they move on they often leave an incredible void.
On that note what do we say to our children when they lose a pet who was always there, sometimes presenting a slipper or their favourite toy on their arrival from school? Did they hear the garden gate or were they just waiting at the door patiently for our return?
A very young child does not understand the concept of death, so a mere explanation that they have gone to sleep and are resting sometimes is all that we can say.
Indeed my nursery children regularly ask the question, ‘where are Butler and Gracie?’
‘ They are fast asleep,’ is my answer. Trying to look happy.
Hum!
But that is sufficient and acceptable to the young ones who are used to their visit from time to time.
These are children in their learning environment, but how do we deal with those who are with their pets at home, 24/7 so to speak? It’s not so easy to say they are still sleeping. And where are they??
The loss of a family pet cuts deeply. I have never witnessed such breath taking unconditional and accepting love that I have seen with Butler and Gracie.
Going home, the house feels empty. I still have their empty beds in situ.
Do I want another dog? I don’t know at this point in my life, but I will certainly save on doggy care.
Did someone mention childcare costs?
It costs us dearly for our loved ones but life would be empty without them.
Chat soon.
Anna
